02.27.07

On my back again, this time saving money!

Posted in Diary Entries at 11:12 am by skay

I spent the majority of the day on Sunday on my back in the garage installing a lift kit on the Jeep. I did however save about $700 on installation. However, before we get to that let’s reflect on Mike’s stay here over the pas couple of weeks. Last weekend he was here for Friday and Sat, and this weekend for Thursday, Friday and Saturday. This was our first opportunity to play host to a guest and I am afraid that on the “feeding the guest” part of the program we failed miserably. I guess we just don’t realize that our fridge is mostly empty and our cupboards contain a hunderd bottles of condiments and no actual food. This came to light most acutely on Friday when Mike showed up several hours before we thought he would. In the culinary panic that ensued we decided it would be best if we just ordered pizza unless of course mike was in the mood for a bread sandwich or a banana with some garlic sauce. Saturday was much better since we headed out to Red Lobster which unfortunately resembled a Tokyo train station platform at rush hour. We decided to head across the road to The Friendy Greek which, as usual, was very tasty and incredibly filling. Nicole has promised to do the restaurant review so I will leave it to her. That brought us to Sunday and after the 3 hours I spent on Saturday cleaning the garage, breaking cardboard boxes and sweeping the place I was ready to start the install.

The first question Nicole asked after I was done was “why?”. My response shoudl probably preface this section so that you can understand my motivation. Each Jeep Grand Cherokee that you see on the road looks pretty much the same. They are beautiful machines however they are rapidly being painted with the same “Soccer Mum” brush that most SUV’s are. The point is that there is a difference between someone who buys a Jeep because it is an SUV and someone who owns one because it is a JEEP!!! Part of the reason behind putting in the lift is to separate my Jeep from the others on the road and to point out to people that it looks different because it is different, it is owned by a Jeep owner, not an SUV driver.

That being said, what exactly is a lift anyway? Well, the cheapest way to get more ground clearance under your truck is to put spacers on top of the springs. What springs? What are spacers? Yes, I know some of you will not understand some of this so I will take it slowly.

Simply put there are several ways to control the ride of your vehicle. Each component does something to control either the bounce, the bump, the roll or some combination of those. The vehicle is built on a frame to which the body shell is welded. This is basically one piece which then is attached to the axles to which the wheels and tires are attached. If the axle was connected directly to the axles, every bump and dip in the road would be transmitted through the vehicle. This is where the suspension comes in. The suspension, as the name suggests, suspends the body and frame above the axles enabling some absorbtion of the rough terrain by the suspension components.

The components are very simple even in the most advanced of vehicles. At each corner there are springs that provide a soft rebound component to the vehicle and are maily responsibe for the “comfort” factor of the ride. If you have ever seen a car on the road that seems to bounce a great deal it is likely that the shock absorbers are dead or missing and the car is resting on the springs alone. Which brings us to shock absorbers. As the name suggests, they are meant to dampen the effect of quick and violent changes in the road surface. They are the muscle of the suspension and provide both ride comfort and the ability of the vehicle to survive rough terrain by absorbing the shock transmitted by the road. These two components are the basics of suspension and both come in a variety of types and sizes. The other component of suspension basics are the sway bars. These are also pretty self explanatory they tie the two sets of suspension together side to side to prevent body roll. This is the feeling going round a corner that makes you feel like you are about to roll over as the body squishes the suspension on the outside wheels. This body roll is combated by the sway bar which essentially ties the two opposing wheels together (the two front together and the two rear together) preventing them from moving independently. It means that as an axle compresses to the side during a corner, that the other side will compress by an equal amount, thereby keeping the vehicle level. In practice there are many other components that allow for flexing of the body and you will still feel the body roll, just not to the same degree.

This brings us to the 4×4 enthusiast or off-roader. In off road driving you do not want the sway bars to do their job since you want the wheels and tires to articulate as much as possible. This enables you to go over large obstacles with one wheel while the other is able to maintain contact with the ground. If the sway bar was connected then the opposing wheel would be suspended in the air, a feeling we have all had at some time while navigating curbs, sharp hill crests and so on.

That being said, the install of the polyurethane spacers on top of the spring mounts gives you an additional lift of up to 3″ without having to also go with longer shocks and changing various other suspension parts. I ordered the 4 spacers off the internet (http://www.rocky-road.com/index2.html ) and since I already had all the tools I needed I set about to do it myself. Of course, I investigated how much the install would cost to have it done for me, and most quotes came in around $500 to $800. All I needed to do was go and get spring compressors and I would be set. The compressors, as it happens are free for rent at PartSource.

I started at about 10am, even though it was -10 outside, they had promised it would climb to about 1 degree. Besides, I was in the garage so it was probably at least 0 when I started. I decided to go with the rear springs first since I had read that if you raise one side of the axle, the springs would just pop out. I loosened the lug nuts on the wheel and jacked up the Jeep. Some of you may be surprised to hear that you can actually jack up a vehicle by the differential which is the large round part of the axle between the wheels. I recall being horrified at the thought of this when I first started working on my previous Jeep. I took off the wheel, after a LOT of manhandling and brutal pressure I managed to get the bolts out of the shock mount and the sway bar end and at that point the axle sagged on my side and the spring did indeed pop right out. I used a large flathead screwdriver to get the top spring mount gusset (rubber thingy) out, and placed the new spacer against the truck body, put the gusset back and replaced the spring. I jacked up the axle until I could attach the bolts that I had fought with for almost 1/2 an hour. Once this was done, I duplicated the other side and replaced the wheels.

At this point I was in two minds at to whether I should continue or not. It was 2pm and I was tired as hell. So I decided to take it for a spin and see how it felt. As soon as I started out I heard loud clunking sunds coming frm the rear of the truck and I have to admit I panicked a bit. I was afraid that I was going to need more parts or that I was just going to have to give up and take the spacers out. However, a quick look on the internet revealed that it was most likely due to the bolts not being tight enough. So I once again ventured under the truck and with as much muscle as I could, tightened everything down. A second test drive revealed that indeed the bolts were simply not tight enough. The truck felt like a dream and at that moment I decided to press on and attempt the front units.

Before I could begin, however, I had to go back to PartSource and get the other type of spring compressor since the ones I had rented were apparently (despite the description) the wrong type to use. The Jeep felt fine driving there and back so I was confident that the rest would go as planned.

The fronts were a little more complicated due to the fact that I did in fact have to use the compressors however if you jack up the wheels while the vehicle is on jack stands then you can actually compress the spring to the point where all you need do is hand tighten the compressor and let the wheel down. Once the shock bolts are out and the sway bar is disconnected (quick disconnect swaybars would have been a good idea at this point) the procedure was the same as the rear. You do have to make sure that the spring goes back in the same way it came out because apparently if you change the orientation it will rebound unevenly and throw off your alignment. Bolts out and spring out the spacer was again added between the body and the top mount gusset and the whole unit reassembeled. The fronts took me about 4 hours total and that was including the inconvenience of having to fetch all the tools myself and having to squeeze into a very tight garage space with a bad back and a large unforgiving belly.

All in all, it had taken me about 9 hours including trips to PartSource and all the difficulties with figuring out the jacking and the time wasted at the beginning trying to figure out if I could do it without unbolting the necessary parts. The moral of that part of the story is to us WD40 and get to it because there is a reason you have to do things that way…

Since it was dark outside once I was done I can only give you pictures of other Jeeps to give you an idea of how she now looks. Here are the before and after shots that pretty much match mine, these Jeeps are the same year, the one at the back is stock with stock tires, the one in the front has the same lift as mine plus slightly bigger tires.

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02.21.07

Invitations Shminvitations, it’s not sinking in…

Posted in Diary Entries at 8:29 am by skay

Let me be absolutely clear that my involvement in the planning of the wedding at this point is much the same as a bullrider is involved in riding the bull. I am hanging on for dear life as invitations stock, pictures of backdrops and centerpieces and sparkly jewels of infinite sizes swirl around me like the tornado in the Wizard of Oz. It’s not that I don’t want to be involved or that I find it boring, but rather I don’t want to get in the way and do the typical male trick of trying to “fix” things. Nicole has been thinking about this time in her life for a long time, far longer than I have been thinking about anything at all. In fact, I can’t think of a single thing in any man’s life that even comes close to involving his attention and his efforts like a wedding does for a woman. So I think it is best that I try to stay out of the way as much as possible. I mean, I give my input, mostly that involves nodding and agreeing, but as far as decision making I am basically on the bench for the rest of the game. I’m fine with that, really, and I am starting off as I mean to continue, in support of my fiance, as I will support my wife.

But wait, I am six, sitting at the kitchen table with my legs dangling off the chair eating egg and chips with yolk all over my face, I can’t be getting married…. Can I? 

Simon Asleep with cute shoes!

 

  

02.20.07

Happy Birthday Simon!

Posted in Diary Entries at 8:53 am by Nicole

We started off the day with a surprise get together at Golden Griddle, Simon’s favourite breakfast restaraunt.  I invited some work friends to join in the festivities.  It was hilarious when we got there and Brad was already there waiting….Simon couldn’t understand what a coincidence it was that he was there too!  Small world.  Until the rest of the gang showed up.  Priceless.  He is taking today off to celebrate by doing his own thing…..while I am stuck here at work.

Thats ok though, he deserves it for being the best fiancé ever! 

 

02.18.07

Posted in Diary Entries at 7:03 pm by Nicole

Friday at work just flew by!  Mom had an appointment with her doctor, where the outcome was to get her to Homewood Clinic in Guelph ASAP.   For the room and treatment we have to pay out of our own pockets, which at $200+ per day will add up.  I am praying the outcome will be worth worth every penny. 

At lunch I met with our future wedding planner, Joanne.  Alot of people act so surprised when I say I am considering having a planner, but I think it will be the best money spent.  She will be there to help me stay sane on the wedding day because I think I’ll be a bit busy!  I want my family and friends to relax and enjoy themselves, not to have to worry about the little things (and I don’t want to worry about the big things!) 

All of Friday night was spent cleaning the house for our guest, Uncle Mike!  This weekend and next, he is attending a course for his Ph.D at U of T.  He was our very first guest and quite a good one!  I didn’t even know he was here!  We haven’t seen him in quite a while so it was nice to hear all the stories from up north and get all the juicy gossip ;)   It is so nice to hear about Kim, Julia & Isabel - such exciting things happening in their lives.  I am especially excited to see what happens with Julia’s school and Kim’s new studying adventures.  I hear she has the same interests as Simon & I (flipping houses!)  Perhaps we can make a business out of it!  We had a wonderful dinner at Cynthia’s Chinese Restaurant where we shared all the wedding details!

Today I went to Vaughan Mills after working out, got a new pair of Lululemon pants (grey) and a HOT hot pink Ipod Nano.  I am all set to get into the swing of working out now…..I shouldn’t have ANY excuses. 

I really dislike Vaughan Mills – still.

 

02.17.07

Cynthia’s Chinese Restaurant – Newmarket

Posted in Restaurant Reviews at 8:29 am by skay

We went to Cynthia’s with Uncle Mike while he was staying with us basically becasue everywhere else was full and it was close by. We have eaten their take out many times and have always been happy with the food. As luck would have it, it was Chinese New Year and we were greeted at the door by a woman with the biggest hat I have ever seen. She looked like someone had strapped a christmas tree to her haid while she was sleeping…

We were served quickly and very politely, the hallmark of the Chinese Food Restaurant and the food arrived very quickly. Even though the restaurant was very busy, the service was excellent. The items we ordered were as follows:

Scallops and prawns
Chicken Balls (S&S)
Lemon Chicken
Chicken Fried Rice
Boiled White Rice
Vegetables with cashews
Spring Rolls
Egg Rolls

The food was excellent, far too much for us to finish. The flavours were well balanced in the seafood dish and went along nicely with the sledgehammer sauce that accompanied the chicken balls. The chicken itself was crispy and well done while the chicken balls were not at all doughy but were crispy and light. The rice was natural tasting without that chemical taste you get at some chinese restarants and you could taste the chicken in the fried rice. The spring rolls were not greasy and as far as I could tell the egg rolls were also crispy, not soggy.

All in all, a very good experience and one which we will no doubt repeat. The ambiance was very enjoyable, and I would bet it would be like that any time, not just over new years.

02.12.07

Sails away!

Posted in Diary Entries at 9:23 pm by Nicole

This weekend we paid the deposit on our honeymoon!  The trip won’t top Austraila or Switzerland, but it will be an awesome experience.  We have always wanted to be “Cruisers” and are afraid we may get hooked, just like everyone does.  I can’t wait!  We got an oceanview room on Royal Caribbean from August 31-Sept 9 touring Canada/New England. 

Our itinerary is as follows:

Day 1 – Cape Liberty Cruise Port, New Jersey
Day 2 – Newport, Rhode Island
Day 3 – Cruising
Day 4 – Halifax, Nova Scotia
Day 5 – Saint John, New Brunswick
Day 6 – Bar Harbor, Maine
Day 7 – Portland, Maine
Day 8 – Boston, Mass
Day 9 – Cruising
Day 10 – Cape Liberty Cruise Port, New Jersey

Our weekend was topped off by Flag Day, which is a holiday I think only the hospital has :)   I definately won’t complain though.  The unfortunate part of our day was Simon visiting the dentist getting cavities filled and Nicole visiting the eye doctor with my cross eye. The doctor wasn’t impressed when I told him I spent 8+ hours a day on the computer.

We had a nice dinner on Saturday at Masseys with Mom & Dad celebrating Mom’s 62nd Birthday.  They are in full swing of Valentines Day at the Flower shop – hopefully the weather that is coming won’t ruin their business.  After work on Friday, I went to Hoflands Flower supply store and got some goodies for the wedding.  They had lots of fun sparkly things to play with!

Table Diamonds

02.09.07

Todays idea of the day…

Posted in Diary Entries at 7:01 am by Nicole

I wonder if there is such a website where you can type in your starting and ending location and it will calculate which Public Transportation (Subways/Buses/Go Trains) you should take to get there and also the length of time it will take?

If there isn’t, I think it is a great idea :)  

02.07.07

My sick family…

Posted in Diary Entries at 1:18 pm by Nicole

Poor Simon is at home sick with a flu for 4 days now :(   He thinks now he wants to be a “househusband”.  Even though he is sick, he likes to be home, not working. But don’t we all? 

Mom going to see a Reiki therapist today.  It should be quite  interesting actually!  She got a gift certificate from Aunt Carolyn for her birthday for a session.  I’ll update after the appointment.  I’m going to go with her to her psychotherapists appt on Monday.

Reiki explained:  “In Reiki, however, the healer places the hands above the recipient; however, it is the recipient that draws the energy as needed. Thus, in this case, the individual being healed takes an active part in the healing process as opposed to having a passive part in spiritual healing. The individual takes responsibility for his or her healing. The recipient identifies the needs and cater to them by drawing energy as needed.”

02.05.07

Wedding Checklist

Posted in Diary Entries at 9:28 pm by Nicole

Done / In Progress

Ceremony – Done
Reception – Done
Flowers – Done
Band – Done
Ceremony Music – Done
Dress – Ordered
Photographer – Done
Chocolate Fountain – Done
Caterers – Done
Invitations – Soon
Decorations – Doing now
DJ – Visiting on Wednesday
Honeymoon – Booked
Saving money – Underway
Colours – Can’t decide yet
Favours – Yummy and done
Hotel Rooms – Booked

To do:
MC
Register?
Wedding Bands
Book & Meet Officiant
Marriage licence
Cake
Accessories of course
Book Hair/Makeup
Transportation? 

 

02.04.07

Happy Birthday Mom!

Posted in Diary Entries at 9:18 am by Nicole

Unfortunately this year is repeating itself.  Mom is still suffering from severe depression and no improvement is being made.  I feel so helpless.  It has now been 2+ years and with numerous doctor visits, trips to hospitals, different medications and even ECT .  Things seem to be getting worse … she doesn’t want to do anything or go anywhere, she isn’t interested in the wedding plans, she is just basically hating life. 

The happiest time of my life wasn’t supposed to be like this for her. 

It makes me very upset that she can’t be involved, but she can’t help it, and I understand.  I an trying to arrange for her to go and see the people at Homewood Health Centre, where she would go and stay and get some help.  I know it is the last thing she would want to do, but I think it is worth a try.  Anything is actually.  I want to see her happy smiling face like I always remember….but most of all, I want her to just be happy again.
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